- Intercultural relationships cannot work
Most people already have a formed opinion and belief that no cross-cultural relationship can ever work because of cultural diversity. When people develop such a perception, it is difficult to change their mindset. We are all familiar and have heard of phrases like ‘he was not good for her, she is difficult to deal with, they have always been arguing,’ and so on from people. When people talk negatively about your relationship not working it brings in a lot of doubt and can lead to a break-up. The best thing is to assume the negative talks and focus on building your relationship. Let them remain dumbfounded when they realize that your relationship is actually working despite your cultural differences.
- Cross-cultural relationships are harder to deal with
For any relationship to work, it requires patience, hard work, love, commitment, time, and sacrifice. This does not make intercultural relationships any different from any other relationship. Simply because the person has a different skin tone, race, or culture does not make the relationship any harder than couples in the same cultural relationship.
- Sacrifice your own culture for another
Who said that when you marry from a different cultural background, you have to forget all about your own cultural practices? This is not true! Marriage is a union between two different people, who share the same goals. Moreover, most couples in cross-cultural unions do not fully adapt to their own spouse’s cultural practices but come in with an open mind of learning and adapting.
- All intercultural relationships do end in divorce
Any relationship can end up in a divorce or a separation and not just couples in intercultural relationships. There are so many success stories of couples who have managed to make their relationships and marriages work in today’s world. If you truly love each other then divorce is something that will never cross your minds. Furthermore, why resolve to a divorce when you can sit down solve your differences?
- Cultural clashes and everyday conflicts
Couples should not allow culture to define their relationships or how they ought to do certain things. It is normal for couples to clash over their personalities rather than their culture. Conflicts are inevitable in all relationships and they are there for a reason, what matters is how couples handle their everyday conflicts.
- Bad luck to marry from a different culture
Some cultures have strict rules preventing individuals from marrying outside their own culture. They consider it as morally wrong and a bad luck because it will lead to cultural erosion. People from such cultural practices need to know that change is inevitable and should embrace it. There is nothing wrong marrying from a different culture. In fact, cultural diversity opens up a new world of opportunities, exposure, interaction, communication, learning and so much more.
- There are beneficial motives in intercultural relationships
This is certainly not correct at all because it implies that intercultural couples marry or are in relationships for a different motive to benefit themselves and not for love. In reality, at some point in time one partner has to relocate to the other spouse’s country. This is to avoid families from living separately and to strengthen the bond.
- Your spouse will never be accepted by your family
Unfortunately in some cases, it is true, especially if your spouse is from a deeply conservative family; however, this is not the case for everyone. There are many intercultural couples who have been accepted by their families wholeheartedly and are not treated any differently from the other family members.
- You cannot fit or adapt to your spouse culture
The main concern for many family members is whether one will be able to adapt and adjust to their new culture. Couples in intercultural relationships have managed to adapt and adjust easily to their spouse’s culture with less stress.
- Hate our own race/culture
Most people think that intercultural couples marry from a different culture because they simply hate their own race or culture. For instance, if one decides to marry from an Indian culture yet he is from America it does not mean that they hate American’s or their culture. It just turned out that they found love from someone who is from a different culture from their own.
The above mentioned are just mere beliefs and should not be used to stereotype cross-cultural relationships.